Sticks and Stones

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"Sticks and stones can break your bones, but..." Despite how the saying goes, words can hurt you.

I like to think I am good with words, I love to write and speak whenever I get the chance, and I always have. But there is nothing wise about complaining or rumors… And I have not always been good at controlling either. 

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“Whoever puts down another is not wise, but one who knows better keeps quiet.”[1]

There are versions of “complaining” that are good. Like Martin Luther King Jr. complained about the injustice against African-Americans, and Jesus complained about the ways the religious leaders acted superior when they were just as polluted as anybody else.

But these types of complaints offer a solution, and so often I don't. I complain because there is nothing better to do. I complain about work, people, things that should be better but aren’t, and also when they screw up my order at the drive thru.

God's desire is that if we are not part of the solution we should not pipe in. If you are like me, I love to voice my opinion. But if it is not part of the solution, then it is not only unneeded but destructive.

Complaints destroy credibility to others, and optimism in yourself. The more we complain (both in spoken word and in our hearts) the more we allow darkness to take over with bitterness and resentment.

We can try to simply hold our tongues, but that is just an outward action. Instead, the only thing that kills complaints is gratefulness. When we are grateful for what God is doing we begin to see things through His lenses, and look for solutions not problems.

Complaining is easy because it is much easier to destroy a building then it is to build one, and that is all complaining does… it destroys. If you want to do something impressive build something up with new and creative solutions, and life giving words of encouragement.



[1] Proverbs 11:12 The Voice